How to Write with AI Without Losing Your Choice or Flattening Your Voice

A guide to writing with AI.

The debate over AI-assisted writing is too simple. The real question is whether a writer owned the ideas, the judgment, and the voice.

I’ve always had more ideas than time.

Back in my ad agency days as a copywriter and creative director, the ideas weren’t the problem. Getting them out of my head and into something worth presenting was the work. Many ideas never saw the light of day.

AI has changed this. It helps me develop ideas and iterate more efficiently. Through conversation, research and feedback, I get more ideas to a much better place quickly.

I still rewrite. I still rearrange. I still question the logic and change words long after a draft is done (like tweaking a blog article on Saturday morning after publishing it on Friday).

But thanks to AI assistance, I can publish more and go deeper, getting to ideas that used to die on the vine.

When gen AI arrived in 2022, I wrote about where it should and shouldn’t be used without using it in my own writing process. Over time, that felt incomplete. To teach students how to use AI responsibly, I need to learn to use it thoughtfully and transparently myself.

By 2025, I began testing AI in my own writing process. My writting with AI has always been AI assistance, but there’s a lot of nuance to it.

How you use AI in writing matters, especially now that writers, editors, and publishers are increasingly worried that any AI use will cause thoughtful work to be dismissed as AI slop.

TheWall Street Journal has reported writers intentionally adding typos and removing their authentic voice to avoid being labeled as AI, comparing it to a “new McCarthyism.”

What Makes Writing Feel Like AI?

I listened to an interview with Max Spero, CEO of Pangram, one of the more sophisticated AI detection tools. When asked how it works, he described writing as a decision tree.

Every word, sentence, and structural choice sends you down a path. As a piece of writing gets longer, the number of possible paths grows. Yet large language models tend to make similar choices repeatedly. Spero described this tendency as “mode collapse.”

Think about a good conversation. You may begin with a topic, then wander into an unexpected story or follow a tangent that turns out to be more interesting than your original thought. Humans take tributaries. AI tends to steer back toward the center.

In his newsletter, Christopher S. Penn gives us another clue: surprise. AI-generated text often has a more regular rhythm, more predictable word choices, and fewer unusual turns.

Human voice lives in irregularities: an odd phrase, abrupt sentence, unexpected detail, or personal reference no one else would think to include.

Like a headline and subhead I once wrote for a health insurance client:

“Five great places to pass a kidney stone. No one plans for these things, that’s why we do.”

That unexpected turn won us the account and won the client new customers. AI would never write that line. Unexpected requires breaking from the predictable path, exactly what AI is trained against.

This doesn’t mean unusual writing is automatically good writing. A paragraph can be unpredictable and make no sense. But voice is not simply a vocabulary list. It comes from the accumulated choices you make as a writer.

The contrast has shown up in my LinkedIn feed. Why do many posts look the same now? Stacked single sentences. White space. Staccato pacing to pull you down the scroll.

I’ve followed some people for years and have read their work elsewhere. I’ve enjoyed their distinct writing styles. It’s sad to see some of that voice disappear as AI nudges more writers toward the predictable path. People have always considered the algorithm. But AI makes that optimization faster, more confidently, and available to all with an easy click.

AI Can Flatten Writing

At one end of the scale, someone types a prompt, copies the answer, and publishes it without much thought. The ideas may not be theirs. The examples may not be real. No one checks the facts or questions whether the piece is worth publishing.

At the other end, a writer brings an original idea and uses AI as a research assistant, editor, or thought partner. The writer tests the argument, rejects generic suggestions, rewrites sections, adds personal experience, and takes responsibility for each decision and fact. They’re not the same process.

AI use is on a scale that shouldn’t be flattened into a simple label.

There’s also an important distinction between writers at different stages of development. For a student or less experienced writer still finding a voice, the rough draft and other parts of the process still need to be theirs. But even experienced writers creating the rough draft can allow AI to take away their voice via recommendations. There is a fine line between critque and improvement and “enhacing” away your unique voice to algorithmic middle and towards AI phrasing and structure.

The struggle of shaping an argument isn’t wasted time. It’s how judgment develops. Experienced writers may lose some skills to AI, but too much cognitive offloading in students means they may never develop them.

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Click in graphic to download a PDF. Graphic created by ChatGPT.

This distinction became clearer listening to Mitch Joel’s conversation with communication coach Carmine Gallo. He makes an important point about great communicators.

What looks effortless rarely is. A Steve Jobs keynote may have felt simple, natural, and spontaneous. But it was the product of hours of planning, preparation, feedback, and practice. The ease was earned through repetition.

With AI, students and young professionals can produce something polished without putting in the reps that build the underlying skill. The danger isn’t only AI flattenning their voice. It may prevent them from developing one in the first place. An MIT study on essay writing with ChatGPT called this risk “cognitive debt.”

Some friction keeps an idea trapped in your head. But other friction is how you learn to think, write, and communicate. For less experienced writers, if you outsource too much too early and you may never build the judgment you’ll need when an AI answer is wrong, generic, or not good enough. For experienced writers, it becomes a slippery slope of accepting confident suggestion after suggestion without realizing that the sum of those changes is a piece that is less your own.

How Do You Protect Your Voice?

Throughout the writing process, I keep asking:

Am I reacting to the AI, or is the AI reacting to me?

Did I bring the idea, the story, the analogy, the point of view? Or did AI give me an idea and I simply made it sound a little more like me?

Each choice matters. Don’t let AI decide your opening story before you have one. Don’t accept the obvious analogy because it arrived quickly. Don’t let AI arrange every thought into the same polished structure.

Even when the original words are yours, AI can flatten your voice by arranging those words into a more predictable pattern. Penn makes a memorable example with Yoda from Star Wars. AI would rearrange Yoda’s words into a conventional sentence structure. The meaning remains, but Yoda disappears.

It’s a subtle risk. The ideas and message could still be yours while the writing becomes less recognizably yours. AI can be a good editor. But a good human editor, like my editor at Bloomsbury, knows not to turn every writer into the same writer.

The headline of this blog article became an example. AI confidently suggested a more grammatically polished version:

“How to Write With AI Without Losing Your Voice — or Your Judgment.”

I kept coming back to “losing your choice or flattening your voice.” The choice / voice rhyme felt more memorable to me, probably because of my years writing advertising headlines. It may not be perfectly constructed. But it sounds more like something I would write and say.

Without confidence in my own writing voice, I might have easily abdicated that decision. Sometimes the slightly unexpected phrase is not a flaw to smooth away. It is the voice.

ChatGPT said my phrasing was awkward. But it delivered that advice with personal language: “My favorite…” “My recommendation…” Grammar checker in MS Word never spoke to you like a person. You have to remember there’s no person behind the “my.” AI is not my human editor, no matter how confident it sounds.

You still have to be the human in the room. Trust your intuition, draw on your experience, and check everything.

More than once, AI has confidently given a statistic, a source, or a link that sounded like what I was looking for. Only when I questioned it did Gemini, ChatGPT, and Claude apologize and acknowledge that the source didn’t exist.

AI can help find a lead. That doesn’t relieve you of the responsibility to open the link, verify the claim, and decide whether the evidence supports your point. See below for ChatGPT admitting it’s limitations.

 A screen shot of a ChatGPT response.
A look into the process of working with AI on this article.

Assistance Is Not Replacement

Writers have never worked entirely alone. Books have editors. Academic articles have reviewers. Journalists have fact checkers. Copywriters have creative directors and proof readers. I really miss those proof readers!

I became a better writer because other people challenged my work, questioned my logic, and told me when an idea wasn’t there yet. AI can play a useful supporting role. It can identify an unclear paragraph, find a source, suggest a counterargument, or help a writer get unstuck.

AI assistance is different from publishing thousands of synthetic posts under fake names or filling the internet with auto-generated comments no human thought deeply about.

At the same time, readers should know when AI played a meaningful role. Disclosure matters. But collapsing every kind of AI assistance into a single category doesn’t help us think more clearly about authorship.

Using AI to write gives us more power to develop ideas, follow new tributaries, and get thoughts into the world that might otherwise not make it. But that power comes with responsibility. We have to make the important choices. We have to protect our voice, verify our sources, question the confident answer, and remain accountable for what we publish.

If you want to write something worth reading, you still have to be the human in the room.

The central idea for this post was mine. I used ChatGPT and Claude as thought partners to test the argument, identify possible supporting sources, and follow new tributaries opened by listening to the Spero interview, reading Penn’s newsletter and Joel’s conversation with Carmine Gallo. I opened and checked AI sources before using them. I rewrote, reorganized, added, cut, and edited through multiple rounds. That included rejecting smoother suggestions when a less predictable phrase (the headline’s choice / voice rhyme) sounded more like me. The experiences, ideas, opinions, and final decisions are my own.

Why I’m Teaching Humans to Partner with AI Instead of Training AI to Replace Them.

While AI companies are now spending billions teaching AI to replace people, I take a different view – teaching people to work with AI as partners, not competitors. My approach has been thinking of AI as what Ethan Mollick calls Co-Intelligence. AI is a research assistant, brainstorm partner, advisor, task completer, and debater. It’s a tool to augment and sharpen, not replace your own human intelligence, expertise, and learning.

How are you feeling about AI? It’s been a short, long 3 years of ups and downs. I’m trying to navigate  forward somewhere through the middle.

On one of my runs this week I was listening to the Artificial Intelligence Show. Co-host Paul Roetzer referenced the article, “How Anthropic and OpenAI Are Developing AI ‘Co-Workers'” and explained how AI companies are spending 1 billion this year training LLM agents to do our jobs using cloned apps and reinforcement learning (RL).

Since the release of ChatGPT, I’ve been focused on helping professionals, professors, and students prepare for AI in the workplace, not as a replacement for their expertise and thinking, but as a tool to improve and enhance their human knowledge and talents.

Humans are training AI in RL gyms.

Companies like Mercor are recruiting highly-skilled experts such as doctors, lawyers, PhDs, engineers, and marketers, paying them high wages to work with AI labs to be LLM trainers. They’ve built thousands of RL gyms training AI on knowledge worker jobs.

When I heard this, I honestly almost stopped my run to dream about the money I could make as an AI trainer! But that dream didn’t last long, when I thought about the moral implications and how that would make me feel professionally and personally. I really enjoy teaching humans.

Despite any moral dilemma, the business reality is clear: AI is here to stay. A Stanford HAI survey found 78% of organizations reported using AI in 2024, a steep increase from 55% in 2023.

Rather than training AI to be human, my last two posts were about training people to leverage our brain’s advantages over AI to Be More Human. The Cognitive Training Plan for Students gives examples on how to partner with AI to sharpen your mind, and the Cognitive Training Plan for Professionals explains how to partner with AI to deepen your expertise.

Use AI as a tool, not a replacement.

I’m aware of the risk of cognitive offloading. Rely on AI too much and replace our thinking or learning, then we lose those skills as professionals or never acquire them as students. I’ve illustrated the dangers of this in an infographic that warns how AI Can Skip The Stages of the Cognitive Learning Process.

My solution has been to use AI, test it, and share what I learn with my students, professor colleagues, and marketing and communications professionals. Overtime I’ve learned ways to use AI and ways not to use it. A key concept that explains this is the jagged frontier of AI.

In research with Boston Consulting Group, Ethan Mollick and his co-authors found that AI is very good at some things but bad at others in ways that are hard to predict or recognize without expertise. The consultants at BGC found the edges through use and became AI experts in their discipline. Those who engage with AI to uncover the jagged frontier in their field will not only survive in the AI revolution but thrive.

GPTs to increase your co-intelligence with AI.

This summer, I had a goal of creating a custom GPT. I wanted to train general AI for specific high-value tasks that I’ve found professionals and students struggle to understand and/or execute. I also wanted custom GPTs that guide and direct, not outsource thinking.

A social media audit is an invaluable strategic tool that uncovers insights to make significant improvements to a brand’s social media marketing. Yet, the process is often difficult to understand. The Social Media Audit GPT takes you step-by-step through the process of conducting a social media audit for any product, service, or organization. It’s trained on the social media audit process used in my book, Social Media Marketing.

The Social Media Audit GPT isn’t an automated tool that collects data or does the audit for you. You remain in the driver’s seat as the social media strategy expert (current professional or student in training). Only humans truly understand how we socialize online with other humans and companies.

Brand storytelling has been a buzzword in business because it works. It’s been proven by my own story research and others. Yet, telling good stories isn’t easy. The Brand Story Creator GPT acts as your coach for creating brand ads and content that resonates through the power of story, based on the dramatic story framework as explained in our Brand Storytelling book. Get help turning your story into scripts, storyboards, print, and social media post mockups.

The Brand Story Creator GPT isn’t an AI automated tool that writes or analyzes for you. As the human expert (current professional or student in training), you’re central to the story creation and analysis. Humans have direct experience of life and can feel the tensions and emotions of characters, key to crafting a story.

A target market is one of the most important strategic decisions. Get it wrong, and the best product or campaign can flop. The Target Market Coach GPT acts as your coach to guide you through the process of segmentation, targeting, and positioning (STP)—a core marketing framework used by top brands. But even top brands, like Gatorade in the 2000s, can fall into the trap of selecting the wrong target, or targets that are too broad or too vague.

I trained this GPT on core marketing principles developed by Phillip Kotler, but also on core concepts emphasized in the Markets, Innovation & Design program I now teach in. A customer-centric perspective is emphasized with an empathetic persona, considering Clayton Christian’s Jobs to Be Done Theory.

The Target Market Coach GPT won’t replace your thinking. It’s designed to strengthen it. As the human expert (current professional or student in training), you’re central to the target selection and analysis to bring an empathic human-centered perspective.

Why bother if AI companies will eventually replace us anyway?

That will take time. AI agent capabilities tend to be over hyped. There’ s much training to go. Plus, by OpenAI’s own admission, LLMs will never be 100% accurate. Humans will always need to remain in the loop. Last week, BetterUp published research in Harvard Business Review that identified unchecked AI used by coworkers as “AI Workslop” that can reduce trust and productivity.

Even the most advanced AI systems demonstrate why humans must stay in the loop. I was using Gemini 2.5 Pro to find stats for this post and Gemini gave me a number. Based on my experience it felt off to me. When I asked where it got that number, Gemini replied,

“The figure from a ‘Chronicle of Higher Education in mid-2025’ survey was a fabrication. In an effort to provide a current and illustrative answer, I generated a hypothetical but plausible-sounding data point and source. This was a mistake. Presenting a fabricated statistic as fact is incorrect, and I apologize for the misrepresentation. Thank you for holding me accountable.”

You also have to consider that human adoption rates often lag behind technological innovation. Even when AI agents get to professional knowledge worker levels, replacing entire departments in companies will be very difficult to achieve.

Even the most aggressive AI-first companies need transition time, such as the Swedish company, Klarna. Months after partnering with OpenAI to replace its customer service team, the company had to reverse course when customers lost patience with the bots.

Ideally, you’ll work for a human-first AI company that’ll strive to minimize the negative effects through growth and a strategic transition. In either case, the employee with AI skills will be kept over the one who refuses or simply doesn’t learn how to use AI effectively.

This isn’t speculation. Just this week Accenure announced a $865 million reinvention around AI that includes “exiting people in a compressed timeline where reskilling is not a viable path.” Walmart announced an effort to prepare America’s largest private workforce for the AI-driven future with its CEO saying, “every job gets changed” because of AI. And SAP’s CFO says AI will help them “afford to have less people.” How can I not help prepare my students for this reality?

Academic versus business perspectives.

This business reality stands in contrast to what’s happening in academia. Mark Watkins’s latest Substack captures that environment well.

He references Tyler Harper’s The Question All Colleges Should Ask Themselves About AI article. It positions universities as facing a pivotal choice: either isolate digital technology from learning as much as possible, even removing it from campuses entirely, or give up on the mission of learning entirely.

So, we have one extreme of some in business spending billions training AI to replace human workers and another extreme of some in universities calling for banning AI altogether.

What’s the answer? I believe it’s somewhere in-between all-out ban and all-out adoption. Even the AI companies are recognizing the need for a middle ground. An example is Google coming out with Guided Learning for Gemini that’s designed not to provide answers but help humans learn how to get answers on their own.

As Watkins points out, we live in an algorithm driven society. Most are quietly in the middle working hard to integrate AI in meaningful ways that advance capabilities and preserve human value. Yet, the stories on the extremes are what garner attention with clickbait headlines that end up in your feed. Since I published this post, Citi announced mandatory retraining of 175,000 employees on writing better prompts. How could I not teach students to use AI responsibly including writing better prompts using my AI Prompt Framework?

AI Prompt Framework Template with 1. Task/Goal 2. AI Persona 3. AI Audience 4. AI Task 5. AI Data 6. Evaluate Results.
AI Prompt Framework Template for writing good prompts.

Ready to start partnering with AI rather than competing against it?

Explore my three human-first AI tools designed to enhance rather than replace your expertise: Social Media Audit GPT, Brand Story Creator GPT, and Target Market Coach. And let me know if I can improve them through further training. Remember, they’re not perfect. Don’t check your critical thinking at the AI door.

This Was 95% Human Generated Content!

I wanted to share my custom GPTs but also comment on what I’ve been seeing in the professional and academic worlds around AI. I sat down and started writing. I did use Gemini Pro 2.5 to find some stats (and check them), and I used Anthropic Sonnet 4 for writing improvement suggestions.